The Different Levels of Security and Insecurity

“Nowhere can man find a quieter or more untroubled retreat than in his own soul.”
-Marcus Aurelius (121 - 180)
Roman emperor and philosopher.
Meditations

There are always reasons why people do things. Always. The differences lie whether they want to share the reasons with you or not regardless how much or how deep you know the person. Don’t get me wrong. I am not encouraging mistrust, rather I am (as always) try to shed more light. I think we can reduce prejudice by understanding what is behind other people’s actions before we react against it.

I read somewhere that ultimately people do things because they get something out of it. May it be material or otherwise, there is always something people get from their actions. Time sometimes doesn’t become a factor. People just know eventually or immediately they will get what they intend on getting.

Have you ever met someone out of place in a formal or business gathering trying so hard to be friendly with everyone? He almost wants to know every little detail you allow yourself to share with future acquaintances. We don’t need to have the keenest eyes to know what he’s up to. On the other hand, have you ever heard of a person being quoted that giving without wanting anything in return is the most gratifying experience one can ever encounter in life? In fact, they don’t have time for social gatherings. I can say that these two situations are extremes but I won’t. Rather, the former is the lowest form of security and the latter is the highest form security. Between the two and every single point between them within the context of contentment is the different levels of security and insecurity.

GO FIGURE! / NEED I SAY MORE? III

• There’s a thing about closed doors in a corridor leading to a room you’ve never been in to. Even if you’ve passed along the corridor a hundred times, you think twice before opening any of the doors.

• I know a few people who waste their time, energy, and intelligence by convincing others to hide their true self.

• “You want to know why I tell you, you don’t love me even if you believe otherwise, because for the longest time I spent with you, you did not inspire me to be a better person.”

• A dear friend/smoker of mine attempted to quit smoking by saying, “I quit already. I didn’t smoke last night!” as he lights his cigarette after having lunch.

• “A really intelligent man feels what other men only know.” - Charles Louis de Secondat Montesquieu, Baron de (1689 – 1755)

• I’ve encountered a few people in my life where they keep their sentiments against other people and they think they’re being polite that way. However, as soon as someone pushes their buttons they declare themselves over and over again not listening to anyone else’s opinion.

• An ex once told me, “You’re too hard to reach. You’re too self-righteous.” That reply I got after saying, “Actually, there’s no such thing as white lies or big lies or any category of lies you can think of. They’re all just lies.”

• The truest friends are always there to help us through the roughest times but we all face our own demons alone.