Love in relationships is so overrated it makes me puke. We even get the most iniquitous information about it from almost everywhere: media, culture, parenting, you name it. Yet, we delve into it anyway. Some even wallow. As a result, people go on “a search for true love.” Thus, complications occur.

I hate preventable complications in any form. Maybe it’s just me but why go through all the drama when, bottom line is, it’s how you look at things. So believe me when I tell you dramas and complications are total waste of time and energy.

Love in relationship IS possible. Here’s the secret. There should always be respect, trust and communication. Take away one; it’s not love. If it’s not love, things can be pretty complicated. If it does, simply make a decision in your current situation. This is crucial in a relationship because this is the point where you might discover you’re the only one in the partnership who’s looking for love. If you do find out, then make a decision; you either play the game or you don’t OR you can play the game first then find love later. Just be ready for the consequences.

How do you go about having love in a relationship? It all begins with knowing who you are. Knowing who you are simply means knowing what makes you happy and defining between what you really need and what you want. You got to have the courage to decide which route to take. But then again there really isn’t any wrong decision because the worst case scenario is that you’ll learn something out of it. Uhm…I stand corrected. The worst case scenario is you didn’t learn what you were supposed to learn so it will be taught to you over and over until you do learn (or until you die, which ever comes first). After you make a decision, stick to it. But, be open for better options. There will always be options. It’s just a matter of making a decision. Once you establish your decision and you’ve learned to commit yourself to it, self-respect flows naturally in your system.

Now, self-respect I believe is probably THE most important possession any human being can ever have. It sets your limitations and allows you to be free at the same time. It acts as your guide on almost any relationships including social and professional. I firmly believe that people will never respect you more than you respect yourself. So, the higher your self-respect, the higher respect you get from people.

Trust simply means honesty. You’ve got to learn to be honest with yourself all the time. Sometimes it’s a difficult process but it’s always a constant course in life. This is necessary for us to know who we are. It’s difficult because, as they say, “Truth hurts.” Well, true to a certain extent however, if we can’t be honest with ourselves, who are we fooling?

Communication is as important simply because this is how we take the strong energy of trust and respect in motion within our selves and all around us. It is important that someone knows who we are, what we need, and what we don’t want.

Now, take all this together. Incorporate it in a relationship. Voila! You’ll find what you’re looking for. Simple isn’t it?